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“It’s so much darker when a light goes out than it would have been if it had never shone.”
― John Steinbeck,
Q: Do your alters come out during therapy sessions? My alters are feeling ignored and unheard in therapy, but most of them are too scared to come out during a session. One came out very briefly but the therapist didn't notice.
My current therapist is heaven-sent. She understands that every system is unique and so requires unique means of recovery. So she has encouraged but not pressured them to front. My alters will share every once in a while something they want me to tell her. It was very difficult to find someone we all trusted enough. Chase is still scrapping up the nerve to speak with her personally (He doesn’t like therapists, but he trusts her professionalism, and understands the areas he can’t heal by himself).
Your alters’ fear is 100% valid. Considering what they’ve been through, it’s fantastic that they at least have the desire to speak with your therapist.
When my alters front and don’t make it blatantly obvious it’s them, I encourage my friends who know and may notice to NEVER refer to them by their name. Alters have the right to that privacy. They have the right to evaluate someone before they trust him or her. My frequent fronters and the kids will all answer to my name.
The same goes with your alters: they have the right to privacy, and your therapist - if they know anything about multiplicity - may know this. He or she may very well have noticed, but not said anything for their sake. Next time you meet with your therapist, don’t be afraid to come right out and ask if your alters can have their say. Explain the situation, that they’re afraid, and your therapist should be able to help you make them feel safer.
You guys are doing great. I mean that. Please message me if you need anything else. I’m here for you.
We really needed this kind of validation today.
Thank you Nikao